One thing I've learned this week

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... is, if you can afford to do so, go into an independent living community when you're in your early to mid 60s (basically, as early as they'll let you in).  Independent living communities, if they're doing it right, have you move in when you're still completely independent (and they'll provide 1 meal a day for you), and then as you need more and more help, they'll provide more and more help right there (or at worst, elsewhere within the community).  If you do this, you will prevent your immediate family from stressing and having to do what some would consider distateful tasks for you while they figure out your care and/or get it started.

Now, will Huz and I have the willpower and common sense at age sixty-something to actually do this?  Um... check in in 30 years and see!